Hello and welcome! 💛
We’re glad you found your way here. This community is brand new — so you’re among the very first to bring it to life. That’s why I’d like to briefly show you what awaits you here and invite you to join in right away.
Why this place exists — a personal story
bejiji is not an anonymous company project, but originated from a very personal experience. I was trapped in a relationship myself for a long time, which chipped away at me piece by piece — today I know: It was a toxic relationship with a covert narcissist. The insidious thing about it: From the outside, everything looked fine. And I blamed myself for years.
Two things really helped me back then. One was reading and understanding — the more I learned about this pattern, the more the fog lifted. The other was talking about it: with friends who just listened without judging. That moment of “I’m not imagining this — and I’m not alone” changed everything for me.
That’s exactly how bejiji came about: a platform that helps you understand yourself and your patterns better. And now, this place here, where we can talk to each other. If even one person finds here what I was so missing back then, it will all have been worth it.
What you'll find here
- Welcome — the introduction round (more on that shortly) and a board for feedback & questions about bejiji. Wishes and ideas are explicitly welcome!
- Topic areas — a separate sub-forum for each test: 16 Types, Attachment Style, Enneagram, Big Five, ADHD, and many more. Perfect for comparing and discussing results. (“Is it just me, or…?” — nope, almost never.)
- Open Area — small talk for all sorts of things and book & resource tips: Which book, which podcast, which tool helped you?
- Self-help — protected corners for anxieties, depression, burnout, and obsessions, plus weekly check-ins. Here, more than anywhere else: We treat each other with mindfulness.
How it all works
- You write here under a freely chosen name with your own avatar. Nobody needs to know who you are — only share what you want to share.
- Posts can be formatted (bold, italics, quotes, lists, links) — the little tricks for that are right below the input field. Up to four images per post are also possible.
- Especially important for the self-help areas: You can mark sensitive passages as spoilers (two vertical bars before and after them). They only become visible after a click — so everyone decides for themselves what they want to read right now.
- Just write in the language you feel most comfortable with — your post will automatically land in the appropriate language section.
- And if you change your mind about a post later: You can withdraw your authorship at any time by clicking “Remove my name.”
And now: Introduce yourself! 👋
If you like, write your very first post in the introduction round. It doesn’t need to be a long story — a few lines are perfectly sufficient. As a little starter:
- What brings you to bejiji?
- Which test did you take first — and did the result surprise you?
- What do you want to understand better about yourself right now?
A few heartfelt rules
Behind every post is a real person, often with a real story. Therefore: stay friendly, disagree respectfully, don’t judge. And as valuable as the exchange here is — it doesn't replace therapy. If you’re really struggling right now, please seek professional help in addition.
I’m really looking forward to your stories, questions, and discussions. Glad you're here!
Jack
Founder of bejiji