Six ways to love. Which one is yours?
Some people fall in love in three seconds, others in three years — and both mean it. How you love follows a pattern. The Love Style Test shows you yours: when you first meet someone, in everyday life, and when things get complicated.
- Your dominant love style plus the breakdown across all six styles — as one clear profile
- Understand why you love the way you do — and where you clash with other styles
- Concrete prompts for your relationships instead of self-help platitudes
- 24
- honest questions
- ~5 min
- to complete
- 6 styles
- one full profile
- 28
- languages
Sound familiar?
In love, your own behavior feels completely natural — until someone loves differently than you do. That’s when things get interesting.
You love each other — and yet nothing gets through
You show love through reliability; your partner is waiting for passion. Two love styles can miss each other for years, even while both are giving everything.
When the butterflies leave, the doubts move in
Once the first rush of falling in love fades, you wonder whether it’s still love. Maybe it’s not the relationship at all — maybe it’s what your style understands love to be.
Same story, every single time
Different person, same script: in too fast, stayed too long, pulled away too soon. Until you know your pattern, it just keeps recasting the lead.
Head says yes, gut says maybe
On paper everything fits — and yet something’s missing. Or the other way around: nothing fits, but you can’t let go. Your love style explains which voice gets the final say with you.
The six love styles at a glance
Hardly anyone loves in pure form. Your result shows your mix of all six styles — and which one sets the tone for you.
Eros (Passionate Love)
Falls in love fast, deeply, and with every sense. Chemistry and closeness aren’t a bonus — they’re the foundation. Love at first sight is no myth here.
Ludus (Playful Love)
Likes to keep things light: flirting, exploring, staying open. Commitment is welcome — as long as nobody starts planning a shared future after the second date.
Storge (Companionate Love)
Love grows slowly here, out of friendship and trust. No fireworks at the start — but a bond that can weather storms.
Pragma (Practical Love)
Here, the heart checks with the head: Do your values, goals, and life plans line up? Sounds unromantic — yet it makes the better call surprisingly often.
Mania (Obsessive Love)
Loves intensely, with soaring highs and a fear of crashing. No amount of closeness ever feels like enough — and the worry of losing the other person often has a seat at the table.
Agape (Selfless Love)
Gives without keeping score and puts the other person’s happiness above their own. A grand form of love — as long as it doesn’t forget itself along the way.
What your result looks like
You don’t have to take our word for it: take a look at a real sample profile first — with the distribution of all six love styles, an in-depth analysis, and concrete next steps. Your own result comes with exactly this level of depth.
- Your dominant love style with a detailed, personal interpretation
- All six styles in relation to each other — as one clear visual
- Strengths, growth areas, and a prioritized action plan
- Everyday examples and tips — from first dates to long-term relationships
Opens a real, anonymized sample profile.
What you get
Not a two-liner with a heart emoji — an analysis that actually moves you forward.
Your complete love style profile
Your leading style plus the strength of all six — because how you love is always a blend, never a label.
An in-depth relationship report
Every style analyzed on its own, with examples from dating, everyday life, and conflict — plus context profiles for relationships, work, and yourself.
Prompts you can actually act on
A prioritized action plan, a 7-day plan, and reflection questions — tailored to your style, not to the average of everyone in love.
A PDF for you — and maybe for two
Your result as a beautifully designed PDF: to keep, to reread, or as a conversation starter for your next night in together.
Your love style in three steps
Answer the questions
24 statements about falling in love, closeness, and commitment on a 7-point scale. Answer honestly — not the way that would look good in a movie.
We analyze
We analyze your response pattern across all six love styles and calculate your personal profile — done in under a minute.
Understand and apply
You get your profile with analysis, everyday examples, and concrete prompts — for your current relationship or your next one.
Grounded in research, not a love horoscope
The test is based on the love style typology of Canadian sociologist John Alan Lee, who in the 1970s described six fundamental ways of loving romantically — from passionate Eros to selfless Agape. Relationship researchers later turned his model into a measurable instrument, the Love Attitudes Scale, which is still used in studies on partnership and relationship satisfaction today.
Our test measures the strength of all six styles with 24 statements on a 7-point scale — equally weighted, four statements per style. We don’t squeeze you into a single category: what matters is how the styles relate to each other, because an Eros type with a strong Pragma streak loves noticeably differently than one with a lot of Mania.
And just so it’s clear: your love style is a tool for reflection, not a verdict and not a substitute for couples counseling. It shows you your pattern — whether and how you change it is up to you.
Frequently asked questions
About 5 minutes. The 24 statements are quick to answer — still, take the time to stay spontaneous and honest instead of overthinking every item.
Taking the test is free, and you see your overall placement right away. The full in-depth analysis with the distribution of all six styles, a detailed report, and an action plan unlocks with the 7-day access for $1.95 — then $39.95 every 4 weeks. Cancel anytime.
The six love styles go back to John Alan Lee’s typology and have been studied in relationship research since the 1970s. Our 24 statements cover all six styles with equal weight — the result is as meaningful as your answers are honest.
Yes. Love styles are patterns, not destiny: new relationships, breakups, and personal growth can shift the balance. Many people retake the test after a few months and compare what has moved.
Especially then. Between relationships you see your pattern most clearly — and the next time you meet someone, you’ll notice sooner whether you’re following your style or just an old habit.
Yes. You don’t need an account to take the test, and only people with your personal link can see your result. Whether your partner ever finds out is entirely up to you.
Six love styles. One of them is co-writing your love story right now.
Find out which one in 5 minutes — with a full profile, an honest analysis, and prompts that fit the way you love.
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